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Question: Char, you frequently talk about the importance of encouraging our
  children. Please tell me how to do that.
   
Answer: Parenting is like standing on railroad tracks. One track is being an
  encourager in our children's lives - a personal cheerleader. The
  other track is being a disciplinarian - to guide and set limits. We
  know how difficult it is to balance these two things. Here are some
  helpful phrases that will prove encouraging to your children.
   
  Focus on a child's contributions and assets:
  > Thanks, that helped a lot.
  > It was thoughtful of you to…
  > Thanks. I really appreciate…
  > I need your help with…
  > Your have skill in…
  > To a family group - I really enjoyed today. Thanks.
     
  To build a child's confidence:
  > Knowing you, I'm sure you'll do fine.
  > You'll make it.
  > I have confidence in you.
  > That's a tough one, but I'm sure you'll work it out.
     
  To show acceptance of your child:
  > I like the way you handled that.
  > I like the way you tackle a problem.
  > I'm glad you enjoy learning.
  > I'm glad you are pleased with it.
  > Since you're not satisfied, what do you think you can do so
    you will be pleased with it?
  > How do you feel about it?
     
  To recognize effort and improvement:
  > I appreciate you effort.
  > It looks as if you worked really hard on that.
  > It looks as if you spent a lot of time thinking that through.
  > Look at the progress you've made (be specific).
  > Look how far you have come.
     
  These phrases mean a great deal to your children. (They also work
  well with spouses and employers.)
     
  Have fun with them!
 

 




Char Wenc

Dear Ms. Wenc, Getting back to home and work may have delayed my getting to this note but did not diminish my gratitude... I want to take a moment to thank you for your efforts at the recent CPE Capstone. While your presentations in the general sessions and your dynamic style were incredible, I particularly appreciated your support of me regarding my presentation. The style was foreign to me and I felt terribly incompetent. Again, thank you very much...

Paul Patane MD, MBA